Updated: Feb 14, 2019
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Welcome to another week in review, for my Keeping it Real While Maintaining the Aloha vlog/blog.
I got back home late last night from a weekend of fun on Oahu. Friday night I performed at a wedding in Waikiki for one of my best friend's best friends. The bride asked me to sing "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" (the Braddah IZ version) as she walked down the aisle, and that was a first for me! I always get SO emotional when it comes to weddings! I rarely can hold it together when they're walking down the aisle... but this time, the weather caused the entire ceremony to be moved inside at the last minute (started pouring!), so in the hustle we stayed set up outside while everyone was inside-- which helped with my nerves and allowed me to sing without melting down! lol! Reception vibes are always good fun, its just the tender parts that sometimes get to me!
After that we decided to hit up a karaoke bar for some Waikiki obligatory singing. Which makes me wanna ask everyone, WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE GO-TO KARAOKE SONG?
Here are a few of mine:
Pillowtalk - Zayne
I Guess That's why they Call it the Blues - Elton John
SHOOP - Salt n Pepa
NO SCRUBS - TLC
Weak - SWV
Party in the USA - Miley Cyrus
Ideas for upcoming music videos
So one of my #19for2019 goals was, in celebration of having 10 years since my first album, to release a best-of album this year and to create more music video content to go along with it!
I wanted to hear your feedback-- which song(s) off my previous albums would you love to see a music video for?
Here are the options from my first album:
1. Big Deal
2. I Just Want You ARound
5. Barista By Day
Here's the options for songs for my music video for my second album:
6. Crown Royal
7. What am I Doing
8. Its Not the Same
9. Moving On
Here are some options for some other songs and newer material:
10. High on Love
Comment below and lmk what you think! I'll guarantee do one new music video from each album in the next few months, so your feedback is super important!
How to start good habits:
No one is perfect, duh. I'm farrrr from it. But I'm really learning to embrace my imperfections-- (hey! I've even started a line of my merchandise that I've been calling "Perfectly Imperfect" with tie dyed garments and self-constructed wearable art.). Anyway, I've been really trying hard to figure out ways to manage my TIME with all these great intentions and goals I have for the year. I want to get in the groove of making the things I kinda DREAD doing sometimes... into something that comes natural to me. I vaguely remember being told it takes like 3 weeks to start a habit.... or something? Rather than keep assuming I decided to look it up and refresh my vague memory of what it takes to make new habits stick!
I want to start the habit of eating breakfast and eating healthy throughout the day
working out at sunset time
getting on a routine with my WORK FLOW so that the evenings are good
having the same preparation for shows like checking and double checking all my equipment and packing stuff
And being more punctual!
I found this really cool article that I wanted to share with you!
18 Tricks to Make New Habits Stick
Wouldn’t it be nice to have everything run on autopilot? Chores, exercise, eating healthy and getting your work done just happening automatically. Unless they manage to invent robot servants, all your work isn’t going to disappear overnight. But if you program behaviors as new habits you can take out the struggle.
With a small amount of initial discipline, you can create a new habit that requires little effort to maintain. Here are some tips for creating new habits and making them stick:
1. Commit to Thirty Days – Three to four weeks is all the time you need to make a habit automatic. If you can make it through the initial conditioning phase, it becomes much easier to sustain. A month is a good block of time to commit to a change since it easily fits in your calendar.
2. Make it Daily – Consistency is critical if you want to make a habit stick. If you want to start exercising, go to the gym every day for your first thirty days. Going a couple times a week will make it harder to form the habit. Activities you do once every few days are trickier to lock in as habits.
3. Start Simple – Don’t try to completely change your life in one day. It is easy to get over-motivated and take on too much. If you wanted to study two hours a day, first make the habit to go for thirty minutes and build on that.
4. Remind Yourself – Around two weeks into your commitment it can be easy to forget. Place reminders to execute your habit each day or you might miss a few days. If you miss time it defeats the purpose of setting a habit to begin with.
5. Stay Consistent – The more consistent your habit the easier it will be to stick. If you want to start exercising, try going at the same time, to the same place for your thirty days. When cues like time of day, place and circumstances are the same in each case it is easier to stick.
6. Get a Buddy – Find someone who will go along with you and keep you motivated if you feel like quitting.
7. Form a Trigger – A trigger is a ritual you use right before executing your habit. If you wanted to wake up earlier, this could mean waking up in exactly the same way each morning. If you wanted to quit smoking you could practice snapping your fingers each time you felt the urge to pick up a cigarette.
8. Replace Lost Needs – If you are giving up something in your habit, make sure you are adequately replacing any needs you’ve lost. If watching television gave you a way to relax, you could take up meditation or reading as a way to replace that same need.
9. Be Imperfect – Don’t expect all your attempts to change habits to be successful immediately. It took me four independent tries before I started exercising regularly. Now I love it. Try your best, but expect a few bumps along the way.
10. Use “But” – A prominent habit changing therapist once told me this great technique for changing bad thought patterns. When you start to think negative thoughts, use the word “but” to interrupt it. “I’m no good at this, but, if I work at it I might get better later.”
11. Remove Temptation – Restructure your environment so it won’t tempt you in the first thirty days. Remove junk food from your house, cancel your cable subscription, throw out the cigarettes so you won’t need to struggle with willpower later.
12. Associate With Role Models – Spend more time with people who model the habits you want to mirror. A recent study found that having an obese friend indicated you were more likely to become fat. You become what you spend time around.
13. Run it as an Experiment – Withhold judgment until after a month has past and use it as an experiment in behavior. Experiments can’t fail, they just have different results so it will give you a different perspective on changing your habit.
14. Swish – A technique from NLP. Visualize yourself performing the bad habit. Next visualize yourself pushing aside the bad habit and performing an alternative. Finally, end that sequence with an image of yourself in a highly positive state. See yourself picking up the cigarette,